What made you decide to specialize in the divorce space?
I have seen too many people, myself included, that went through the “traditional” adjudicated divorce process and how that process affected them in a negative way. This “traditional” process erodes civility, creates a win/lose atmosphere, and comes at great cost both financially and emotionally. I wanted to find an alternative process to this traditional divorce method that put the control back into the hands of the people going through this difficult time in their lives with the help of some navigation. That’s why I became educated in this area and became specialized in divorce mediation.
What makes you unique in helping clients through a divorce?
I am really good at asking the “what if” questions to test the strength of agreements. When going through a divorce, it is easy to be stuck in the moment and difficult to see what your life may look like in the future. I think when people are going through a divorce, they are mostly looking for an agreement that solves the immediate issues at hand, but rarely address issues and interests that may occur down the road. I help clients craft a durable agreement that addresses the “what ifs” and other potential areas of conflict that may occur down the road to allow for a stronger foundation moving forward and the comfort knowing there is something in place as a fall back should conflict occur in the future.
What is one thing clients don’t realize about you?
I am a professional opera singer with the Lyric Opera of Chicago. I have been singing on stage at Lyric since 2004. I also sing the National Anthem for the Chicago Bulls anywhere from 2-5 games a season.
What is the best advice you have ever gotten – or given?
Constantly ask yourself, what would you do if you were in their shoes? That is advice that was given to me a long time ago by my grandmother.
What do you wish clients knew before they took any action in their divorce?
I wish they knew they had options! Get second opinions. Look at alternative methods to resolve your conflict. Know your rights.
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